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Having trouble defining who you are?

Imagine you’ve died. People have come to your memorial service, and are seated in wait of the eulogy. Take note of how many people are there, and who is there. Are people crying? Who is giving your eulogy? What will this person have to say about your character, what mattered most to you, your attitude and life? Imagine, realistically, your eulogy. How do you feel about what has been said? What would you like this person to say?

This is an exercise I came across several years ago when I asked Google, “Who am I?” I had decided to change my lifestyle at the time because it wasn’t benefiting me, the problem was I had no idea what to do instead. I had trouble defining who I was and what I would now like to do because I use to tie all that this to the lifestyle I was no longer living. One of the websites I came across (which unfortunately I can no longer find) suggested thinking about the above questions could help me figure out what was important to me and what I could strive for. I then had an idea of what new habits to take on.

Which would you rather be known for?

Think about the legacy you would like to leave behind. That is your true you. If you want to be known as someone who was always laughing and smiling, begin doing the things that allow you to do that. Eventually, u will kick it, literally, so live your life doing those things you’ve loved according to your imaginary eulogy. Build habits to encourage your true you to emerge.

Relax, just do it

I used to think the goal of meditating was to unlock this door to another dimension of life. I realize now it’s to quiet my mind to unlock the door of anxieties that keep me from enjoying the moment.

Additionally, I used to think meditation meant being quiet, and was used to make you brain quiet enough to sleep. I have also come to realize that meditation not only offers peace, but redirects energy from worrying to focusing.

The best part is that you can do it around people, outdoors, and through movement. It’s even more simpler than you might think.

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Pacifica State Beach at dusk.

After a week of stressing about school, falling short on some of my new habits I’ve been trying to make routine, I found myself at the beach. As I noticed the birds, dolphins, and puppies that were walking by, I noticed I wasn’t thinking about my problems. I felt the sand on my skin, the cool wind on my face, and without trying I was able to let go. Focusing and being is a huge part of mindfulness, and is the essence of meditation. I left the beach calm and collected, with a new perspective around my school work, and energy to do it. I found myself drawn to the surrounding nature the rest of the week.

I decided to map the locations that I’ve experienced such peace. If you live in the San Francisco Bay Area these locations are wonderful to meditate at. If you don’t, you might think of some locations similar to the ones I mapped.