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Top 25 Motivational Songs

It’s been said that music is one of the best outlets for aggression, but in my experience it’s also been great for self-reflection and motivation. In article published online by Psych Central, author Jane Collingwood noted that “Listening to music can have a tremendously relaxing effect on our minds and bodies, especially slow, quiet classical music. This type of music can have a beneficial effect on our physiological functions, slowing the pulse and heart rate, lowering blood pressure, and decreasing the levels of stress hormones.” I know that for me, being overly stressed has thwarted my plans of achieving goals in the past because I become so stressed it’s like i’m paralyzed. So, to keep stress levels at bay I like to counteract it with positive music from the onset. I put together a playlist of songs I’ve heard over the years that has been motivational in some way. Songs that encourage me to try, have hope, or be thankful for what I got right now. The songs I chose have also helped to remind me of the hope I have for myself on days I might be feeling like I want to give up. I lean more towards rock and pop, so a majority of the songs to make my playlist are of that genre, including artists like Jimmy Eat World, Journey, Van Halen, Steel Pulse, Bob Marley and Drake. If that’s your interest, you might dig these songs. If not, consider making a go-to playlist for when you’re feeling down and need to re focus. Try to chose songs that will remind you too of your true attitude towards life rather that will enhance your anger, anxiety, or depression. For example, if you are grieving the end of a romantic relationship, you might try to guard your heart and avoid sappy love songs. In any event I hope you enjoy!

TOP 25 MOTIVATIONAL SONGS

Having trouble defining who you are?

Imagine you’ve died. People have come to your memorial service, and are seated in wait of the eulogy. Take note of how many people are there, and who is there. Are people crying? Who is giving your eulogy? What will this person have to say about your character, what mattered most to you, your attitude and life? Imagine, realistically, your eulogy. How do you feel about what has been said? What would you like this person to say?

This is an exercise I came across several years ago when I asked Google, “Who am I?” I had decided to change my lifestyle at the time because it wasn’t benefiting me, the problem was I had no idea what to do instead. I had trouble defining who I was and what I would now like to do because I use to tie all that this to the lifestyle I was no longer living. One of the websites I came across (which unfortunately I can no longer find) suggested thinking about the above questions could help me figure out what was important to me and what I could strive for. I then had an idea of what new habits to take on.

Which would you rather be known for?

Think about the legacy you would like to leave behind. That is your true you. If you want to be known as someone who was always laughing and smiling, begin doing the things that allow you to do that. Eventually, u will kick it, literally, so live your life doing those things you’ve loved according to your imaginary eulogy. Build habits to encourage your true you to emerge.

10 Great Quotes To Motivate You To Just do it

Over the years I have heard some great quotes about getting in there and doing it, and putting into action the things you say you want to do but have failed to take the risk of beginning the journey to do so. Sometimes, even though I have heard the same wisdom from relatives or friends, these quotes happen to be what helped things to click and get me started. Short as well, these quotes we a mantra to me at times when I need to quit thinking and get into action. times of anxiety or depression, times when there was something I wanted to do but felt the itch of an excuse coming on to not take that first step, or times when I was just lazy. U can kick it and you can start it too. I hope that if you are on the fence about achieving your goals that these 10 quotes will help give you the nudge to do so like they did for me.

1. “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.” –Jordan Belfort

2. “It is hope, not despair, which makes successful revolutions.” – Hudi

3. “I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.”- Lucille Ball

4. “We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong.The amount of work is the same.”- Carlos Castaneda

5. “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” –Tony Robbins

6. “Beware ‘education’ that’s all preparation. The only form of education is experience; all the preparation in the world will only teach you how to prepare.”- Das Energi

7. “The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”- Walt Disney Company

8. “The best way out is always through.”- Robert Frost

9. “In all toil there is profit, but mere talk tends only to poverty.”- The Holy Bible ESV, Proverbs 14:23

10. “I don’t make excuses, I make results.”- Nike

Best advice about kickin’ it

Over the years, talking with friends and family, I’ve picked up on some good advice. Life altering advice. Advice that changed my perspective on achieving my dreams and goals. Sometimes, the same advice can be given to you over and over again, and whether it has to do with wording or timing, eventually something clicks. These 5 tips did just that for me.

1. “Edit and let go of scenes that don’t go with the overall movie of your life.”

Easily disappointed, I would often find myself thinking about what didn’t work out. Past relationships, jobs, opportunities. What is so interesting about this is that those people, places, and things that I was afraid to let go of didn’t even come close to what I truly desired for myself. My uncle, a film maker, told me once that life is like a movie. Though we may spend hours trying to film one scene, when it comes to the editing process, we may find that that scene really has nothing to do with the overall big picture. Though you invested your time on this scene, maybe more so than any other, you have to be willing to let it go. In real life, we have realize that though we may have invested our time in people, places, or things, it may not go with the big picture of our life movie, and that is OK.

2. “Don’t focus on what you don’t want to do, do everything that you love instead.” 

After attending my best friend’s memorial, I met his son’s mother. Through our grieving we became good friends. Once when she asked how I was doing, I told her I was frustrated. I knew all the things I wasn’t supposed to do, but little about what I should do instead. I knew so little about what I would like to do that i would revert to thinking about what I didn’t. It was a miserable and painful process! She gave me a two week challenge: Do everything you love to do. Think about thoughts that make you feel warm, eat your favorite food, listen to your favorite music, watch your favorite T.V. show. Do all and everything that favors you.

3. “If you were taking a trip, and several miles into it you took a wrong turn, you wouldn’t go all the way back to your house and start over, would you? So why do you have to start over every time you take a wrong turn in life? Just get back on the right track.”

How often is it that we won’t try that last time because of all our failures to arrive to that destination goal? For me, giving my dreams one last shot was close to not happening. I remember telling my uncle ,”I wanted to give up, what was the point of trying? My life has been a repetitive cycle of ‘starting over.'”  When he responded with the metaphor about driving, it made sense. Who really would go all the way back to their house and begin driving again after making a wrong turn 10 miles into a trip? That’s when he explained to me the importance of not throwing out the baby with the bath water. It’s not about starting over but getting back on track, building on what you’ve learned in between.

4. “If it was meant to be, nothing that you do will stop it from happening. If it wasn’t meant to be, nothing that you do will change that.”

A bad habit that I’ve struggled with is trying to control the outcome, especially in relationships. When insecure, which if applying the 10/90 rule my insecurities may have absolutely nothing to do with the relationship itself, I begin to act out, creating pressure and spinning my wheels trying to get the outcome I want because I’m afraid it won’t happen. A friend once told me after beating myself up about my behaviors that if it was meant to be, there was nothing I could do to stop it from happening. Likewise, if it wasn’t meant to be, there was nothing I can do to manipulate it into existence. Knowing this relieved me of the pressure to take forceful actions when it would be best to go with the flow instead. Everything works out as it should.

5. “Keep on dreaming, even if it breaks your heart.”

Part of the country rock song “Even if it breaks your heart” by the Eli Young Band, this lyric hits the nail on the head. Because success includes times of failure, the risk in not achieving success has to do with the temptation to give up when it looks like your goal is out of reach. The ability to continue and persevere in spite of those times has a lot to do with whether or not you dare to dream. After years of heartache, it can be painful to dream about what you want out of fear it may not happen and you are letting yourself down by doing so. But the truth is, what you want is important and possible, always. You need to keep on dreaming, even if it breaks your heart, because the only way your desires can come into existence if if they remain alive. Sometimes, it’s not the right people, places, or things, or that you’re desire is wrong. Be patient for that perfect fit, and don’t give up in between.

Be your own cheerleader

“We are what we think about all day long.” Ralph Waldo Emerson.

When you’re anxious, sad, or experiencing intense emotions, do you ever pay attention to the conversation you have with yourself? Do you tell yourself things like, “If I wasn’t so stupid things would have turned out differently,” or “I’ll never be able to what he or she does?” More often than not, we become unaware of the negative dialogue within us. Having repeated these things to ourselves over and over throughout the years, they become “facts” hardwired in our brains as truths, causing us to take steps towards making those statements a reality by not trying. However, though these negative statements about ourselves have dominated our thought life, u can kick it by taking steps to be kinder to yourself. What are you declaring over your life? Are you your own worst critic of biggest fan?

In this scene from movie “What The Bleep Do We Know,” experiments from a water molecule study performed by Dr. Masaru Emoto is being shown to those passing by at a train station. The experiment analyzed the effect words have on the water crystallization process. What was found that water which was blessed resulted in beautiful crystallization, opposed to being cursed with words such as “ugly” which resulted in the water’s inability to form. “Makes you wonder, If our bodies are 90 percent water, imagine what our thoughts could do that to water, imagine what our thoughts can do to us.”

Another 90 percent rule: 90 percent of how we feel about ourselves has to do with they way we talk to ourselves. When we like ourselves–in our relationships, in our work role, etc.–the more we like others! Wake up and tell yourself “your healthy” or “your happy.” Affirm yourself consistently with positive blessings instead of letting the world affirm you, taking you on an up and down roller coaster while it does. Our thoughts create our future. Though the video below is long, it’s worth checking out.

Thank You Thursday

Sometimes, the hardest thing for me to do is be grateful, even though I know it’s the key to happiness. Not so much when circumstances go the way I plan, but more like when they don’t or when they are moving slower than I’d like. I seem to forget in these times where I’ve came from and what I’ve accomplished thus far because I am hyper focused on immediate results from whatever it is I’m working on in the now. I’ve learned that when I feel like this in the present, it is an opportunity for me to reflect on what I’ve been grateful for in the past.

I love this commercial because it’s true; sometimes you have to go back and remind yourself of all the hurdles and obstacles you’ve already overcome to help with the obstacles you are going through right now.

My best friend Kevin passed away two years ago after a relapse. When I attended his funeral, his uncle was the first to speak when It was time to share, and spoke about hope in times where one might feel like giving up, and using past experiences as part of that hope to help get through those times. He gave me a copy of what he said so I’d be sure to not forget.

kevin

So in honor of Thank You Thursday, I am thankful for what I’ve already overcome, and thankful in advance that my current circumstances will fall in line with my past triumphs. I am even more grateful for those who randomly have helped me over the years by reminding me to do this.

Relax, just do it

I used to think the goal of meditating was to unlock this door to another dimension of life. I realize now it’s to quiet my mind to unlock the door of anxieties that keep me from enjoying the moment.

Additionally, I used to think meditation meant being quiet, and was used to make you brain quiet enough to sleep. I have also come to realize that meditation not only offers peace, but redirects energy from worrying to focusing.

The best part is that you can do it around people, outdoors, and through movement. It’s even more simpler than you might think.

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Pacifica State Beach at dusk.

After a week of stressing about school, falling short on some of my new habits I’ve been trying to make routine, I found myself at the beach. As I noticed the birds, dolphins, and puppies that were walking by, I noticed I wasn’t thinking about my problems. I felt the sand on my skin, the cool wind on my face, and without trying I was able to let go. Focusing and being is a huge part of mindfulness, and is the essence of meditation. I left the beach calm and collected, with a new perspective around my school work, and energy to do it. I found myself drawn to the surrounding nature the rest of the week.

I decided to map the locations that I’ve experienced such peace. If you live in the San Francisco Bay Area these locations are wonderful to meditate at. If you don’t, you might think of some locations similar to the ones I mapped.