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Top 25 Motivational Songs

It’s been said that music is one of the best outlets for aggression, but in my experience it’s also been great for self-reflection and motivation. In article published online by Psych Central, author Jane Collingwood noted that “Listening to music can have a tremendously relaxing effect on our minds and bodies, especially slow, quiet classical music. This type of music can have a beneficial effect on our physiological functions, slowing the pulse and heart rate, lowering blood pressure, and decreasing the levels of stress hormones.” I know that for me, being overly stressed has thwarted my plans of achieving goals in the past because I become so stressed it’s like i’m paralyzed. So, to keep stress levels at bay I like to counteract it with positive music from the onset. I put together a playlist of songs I’ve heard over the years that has been motivational in some way. Songs that encourage me to try, have hope, or be thankful for what I got right now. The songs I chose have also helped to remind me of the hope I have for myself on days I might be feeling like I want to give up. I lean more towards rock and pop, so a majority of the songs to make my playlist are of that genre, including artists like Jimmy Eat World, Journey, Van Halen, Steel Pulse, Bob Marley and Drake. If that’s your interest, you might dig these songs. If not, consider making a go-to playlist for when you’re feeling down and need to re focus. Try to chose songs that will remind you too of your true attitude towards life rather that will enhance your anger, anxiety, or depression. For example, if you are grieving the end of a romantic relationship, you might try to guard your heart and avoid sappy love songs. In any event I hope you enjoy!

TOP 25 MOTIVATIONAL SONGS

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Having trouble defining who you are?

Imagine you’ve died. People have come to your memorial service, and are seated in wait of the eulogy. Take note of how many people are there, and who is there. Are people crying? Who is giving your eulogy? What will this person have to say about your character, what mattered most to you, your attitude and life? Imagine, realistically, your eulogy. How do you feel about what has been said? What would you like this person to say?

This is an exercise I came across several years ago when I asked Google, “Who am I?” I had decided to change my lifestyle at the time because it wasn’t benefiting me, the problem was I had no idea what to do instead. I had trouble defining who I was and what I would now like to do because I use to tie all that this to the lifestyle I was no longer living. One of the websites I came across (which unfortunately I can no longer find) suggested thinking about the above questions could help me figure out what was important to me and what I could strive for. I then had an idea of what new habits to take on.

Which would you rather be known for?

Think about the legacy you would like to leave behind. That is your true you. If you want to be known as someone who was always laughing and smiling, begin doing the things that allow you to do that. Eventually, u will kick it, literally, so live your life doing those things you’ve loved according to your imaginary eulogy. Build habits to encourage your true you to emerge.

10 Great Quotes To Motivate You To Just do it

Over the years I have heard some great quotes about getting in there and doing it, and putting into action the things you say you want to do but have failed to take the risk of beginning the journey to do so. Sometimes, even though I have heard the same wisdom from relatives or friends, these quotes happen to be what helped things to click and get me started. Short as well, these quotes we a mantra to me at times when I need to quit thinking and get into action. times of anxiety or depression, times when there was something I wanted to do but felt the itch of an excuse coming on to not take that first step, or times when I was just lazy. U can kick it and you can start it too. I hope that if you are on the fence about achieving your goals that these 10 quotes will help give you the nudge to do so like they did for me.

1. “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.” –Jordan Belfort

2. “It is hope, not despair, which makes successful revolutions.” – Hudi

3. “I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.”- Lucille Ball

4. “We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong.The amount of work is the same.”- Carlos Castaneda

5. “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” –Tony Robbins

6. “Beware ‘education’ that’s all preparation. The only form of education is experience; all the preparation in the world will only teach you how to prepare.”- Das Energi

7. “The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”- Walt Disney Company

8. “The best way out is always through.”- Robert Frost

9. “In all toil there is profit, but mere talk tends only to poverty.”- The Holy Bible ESV, Proverbs 14:23

10. “I don’t make excuses, I make results.”- Nike

Best advice about kickin’ it

Over the years, talking with friends and family, I’ve picked up on some good advice. Life altering advice. Advice that changed my perspective on achieving my dreams and goals. Sometimes, the same advice can be given to you over and over again, and whether it has to do with wording or timing, eventually something clicks. These 5 tips did just that for me.

1. “Edit and let go of scenes that don’t go with the overall movie of your life.”

Easily disappointed, I would often find myself thinking about what didn’t work out. Past relationships, jobs, opportunities. What is so interesting about this is that those people, places, and things that I was afraid to let go of didn’t even come close to what I truly desired for myself. My uncle, a film maker, told me once that life is like a movie. Though we may spend hours trying to film one scene, when it comes to the editing process, we may find that that scene really has nothing to do with the overall big picture. Though you invested your time on this scene, maybe more so than any other, you have to be willing to let it go. In real life, we have realize that though we may have invested our time in people, places, or things, it may not go with the big picture of our life movie, and that is OK.

2. “Don’t focus on what you don’t want to do, do everything that you love instead.” 

After attending my best friend’s memorial, I met his son’s mother. Through our grieving we became good friends. Once when she asked how I was doing, I told her I was frustrated. I knew all the things I wasn’t supposed to do, but little about what I should do instead. I knew so little about what I would like to do that i would revert to thinking about what I didn’t. It was a miserable and painful process! She gave me a two week challenge: Do everything you love to do. Think about thoughts that make you feel warm, eat your favorite food, listen to your favorite music, watch your favorite T.V. show. Do all and everything that favors you.

3. “If you were taking a trip, and several miles into it you took a wrong turn, you wouldn’t go all the way back to your house and start over, would you? So why do you have to start over every time you take a wrong turn in life? Just get back on the right track.”

How often is it that we won’t try that last time because of all our failures to arrive to that destination goal? For me, giving my dreams one last shot was close to not happening. I remember telling my uncle ,”I wanted to give up, what was the point of trying? My life has been a repetitive cycle of ‘starting over.'”  When he responded with the metaphor about driving, it made sense. Who really would go all the way back to their house and begin driving again after making a wrong turn 10 miles into a trip? That’s when he explained to me the importance of not throwing out the baby with the bath water. It’s not about starting over but getting back on track, building on what you’ve learned in between.

4. “If it was meant to be, nothing that you do will stop it from happening. If it wasn’t meant to be, nothing that you do will change that.”

A bad habit that I’ve struggled with is trying to control the outcome, especially in relationships. When insecure, which if applying the 10/90 rule my insecurities may have absolutely nothing to do with the relationship itself, I begin to act out, creating pressure and spinning my wheels trying to get the outcome I want because I’m afraid it won’t happen. A friend once told me after beating myself up about my behaviors that if it was meant to be, there was nothing I could do to stop it from happening. Likewise, if it wasn’t meant to be, there was nothing I can do to manipulate it into existence. Knowing this relieved me of the pressure to take forceful actions when it would be best to go with the flow instead. Everything works out as it should.

5. “Keep on dreaming, even if it breaks your heart.”

Part of the country rock song “Even if it breaks your heart” by the Eli Young Band, this lyric hits the nail on the head. Because success includes times of failure, the risk in not achieving success has to do with the temptation to give up when it looks like your goal is out of reach. The ability to continue and persevere in spite of those times has a lot to do with whether or not you dare to dream. After years of heartache, it can be painful to dream about what you want out of fear it may not happen and you are letting yourself down by doing so. But the truth is, what you want is important and possible, always. You need to keep on dreaming, even if it breaks your heart, because the only way your desires can come into existence if if they remain alive. Sometimes, it’s not the right people, places, or things, or that you’re desire is wrong. Be patient for that perfect fit, and don’t give up in between.

Be your own cheerleader

“We are what we think about all day long.” Ralph Waldo Emerson.

When you’re anxious, sad, or experiencing intense emotions, do you ever pay attention to the conversation you have with yourself? Do you tell yourself things like, “If I wasn’t so stupid things would have turned out differently,” or “I’ll never be able to what he or she does?” More often than not, we become unaware of the negative dialogue within us. Having repeated these things to ourselves over and over throughout the years, they become “facts” hardwired in our brains as truths, causing us to take steps towards making those statements a reality by not trying. However, though these negative statements about ourselves have dominated our thought life, u can kick it by taking steps to be kinder to yourself. What are you declaring over your life? Are you your own worst critic of biggest fan?

In this scene from movie “What The Bleep Do We Know,” experiments from a water molecule study performed by Dr. Masaru Emoto is being shown to those passing by at a train station. The experiment analyzed the effect words have on the water crystallization process. What was found that water which was blessed resulted in beautiful crystallization, opposed to being cursed with words such as “ugly” which resulted in the water’s inability to form. “Makes you wonder, If our bodies are 90 percent water, imagine what our thoughts could do that to water, imagine what our thoughts can do to us.”

Another 90 percent rule: 90 percent of how we feel about ourselves has to do with they way we talk to ourselves. When we like ourselves–in our relationships, in our work role, etc.–the more we like others! Wake up and tell yourself “your healthy” or “your happy.” Affirm yourself consistently with positive blessings instead of letting the world affirm you, taking you on an up and down roller coaster while it does. Our thoughts create our future. Though the video below is long, it’s worth checking out.

Where you are now is not where you will always be

From my experience, what really holds me back from being able to make progress in turning my life around, kicking bad habits, picking up better ones, is this nagging voice in the back of my head that tells me I should be further along in life.

What happens is that I set out to accomplish all my goals from here on out to make up for lost time, instead of doing my best with what I got in order to make up for all the bad habits that got me to where I am now.

The thing is that trying to everything at once is overwhelming. If I don’t do it all perfectly, I become more bitter about where I am and lose track of the future’s possibilities because I feel stuck. Can you relate?

The truth is, we are all exactly where we are supposed to be. we may not want to be where we are at, but good habits aren’t strong over night. They take work, but trying to be the best you can be today, and kind to yourself if you’re not perfect, will help them to grow, and propel you to where you want to be.

james franco

I had to do an assignment for journalism class once where we had to do a mock obituary of someone famous. I chose my celebrity crush James Franco.

Did you know he worked at McDonalds, or had a brush with the law when he was younger because of sticky fingers? Maybe you knew he was a grad scholar, teacher, screen play writer, director, and actor  Or like me, you may have just thought he was blessed with good looks and breaks that happened overnight, not thinking he, or other successful individuals had to work their way up.

Where you are now may be fate, but it doesn’t have to be your destiny. You don’t have to rush to get there either. You have time!

I had a counselor once tell me, “Even if you flip burgers, be the best damn burger flipper you can be.” What she meant was that even if where I want to be is not where I am, doing my best now will lead me to where I want to go. Making up for lost time is as simple as that, so give yourself a break because u will kick it.

The first and worst: circular thinking

Ever wonder how you acquired that “bad habit?” I’d be willing to bet it started with this: Circular thinking.  This video couldn’t be more true about the nature of unhealthy thinking. You weren’t put on the planet to feel so miserable! Whatever your bad habit is, you need to know this one thing about it: it begins and ends with your thinking. Naturally, we are all creatures of routine, made to be habitual down to the way we produce cells. Our thinking and feelings are no different. They hold the potential of becoming just as much a bad habit as our bad habit. We develop different ways to cope as an escape to these thoughts that make us feel powerless,  some of these coping mechanisms made our circumstances worse. Soon they become second nature, actions that are done without thinking, we think, until they become so mindless that we are back to perpetuating the busy thinking in our head. Exhausting. Our thoughts and actions are tied together, but just like any other habit, you can overcome it. The good news is all it takes is a progression not perfection for there to be results.

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”
Corrie ten Boom, Clippings from My Notebook

So, what can you do when you begin to get sucked in to those thoughts?

divergent

If you’ve seen Divergent- which I highly recommend if you haven’t- you got to do what Tris does- remind yourself “It’s not real.” She had the ability when faced with her fears to call it what it was: false evidence appearing real. Almost always are the thoughts of worry less factual but fear based. Name your thoughts when they start to mimic the above video, acknowledging that they are circular thoughts, then moving on to what is real, applying grounding and mindfulness techniques.  Most importantly, be realistic.  You may go back to worrying minutes later, but be vigilant in your efforts because u can kick it.