From my experience, what really holds me back from being able to make progress in turning my life around, kicking bad habits, picking up better ones, is this nagging voice in the back of my head that tells me I should be further along in life.
What happens is that I set out to accomplish all my goals from here on out to make up for lost time, instead of doing my best with what I got in order to make up for all the bad habits that got me to where I am now.
The thing is that trying to everything at once is overwhelming. If I don’t do it all perfectly, I become more bitter about where I am and lose track of the future’s possibilities because I feel stuck. Can you relate?
The truth is, we are all exactly where we are supposed to be. we may not want to be where we are at, but good habits aren’t strong over night. They take work, but trying to be the best you can be today, and kind to yourself if you’re not perfect, will help them to grow, and propel you to where you want to be.
I had to do an assignment for journalism class once where we had to do a mock obituary of someone famous. I chose my celebrity crush James Franco.
Did you know he worked at McDonalds, or had a brush with the law when he was younger because of sticky fingers? Maybe you knew he was a grad scholar, teacher, screen play writer, director, and actor Or like me, you may have just thought he was blessed with good looks and breaks that happened overnight, not thinking he, or other successful individuals had to work their way up.
Where you are now may be fate, but it doesn’t have to be your destiny. You don’t have to rush to get there either. You have time!
I had a counselor once tell me, “Even if you flip burgers, be the best damn burger flipper you can be.” What she meant was that even if where I want to be is not where I am, doing my best now will lead me to where I want to go. Making up for lost time is as simple as that, so give yourself a break because u will kick it.