Ever wonder how you acquired that “bad habit?” I’d be willing to bet it started with this: Circular thinking. This video couldn’t be more true about the nature of unhealthy thinking. You weren’t put on the planet to feel so miserable! Whatever your bad habit is, you need to know this one thing about it: it begins and ends with your thinking. Naturally, we are all creatures of routine, made to be habitual down to the way we produce cells. Our thinking and feelings are no different. They hold the potential of becoming just as much a bad habit as our bad habit. We develop different ways to cope as an escape to these thoughts that make us feel powerless, some of these coping mechanisms made our circumstances worse. Soon they become second nature, actions that are done without thinking, we think, until they become so mindless that we are back to perpetuating the busy thinking in our head. Exhausting. Our thoughts and actions are tied together, but just like any other habit, you can overcome it. The good news is all it takes is a progression not perfection for there to be results.
So, what can you do when you begin to get sucked in to those thoughts?
If you’ve seen Divergent- which I highly recommend if you haven’t- you got to do what Tris does- remind yourself “It’s not real.” She had the ability when faced with her fears to call it what it was: false evidence appearing real. Almost always are the thoughts of worry less factual but fear based. Name your thoughts when they start to mimic the above video, acknowledging that they are circular thoughts, then moving on to what is real, applying grounding and mindfulness techniques. Most importantly, be realistic. You may go back to worrying minutes later, but be vigilant in your efforts because u can kick it.